I know the headline calls it out as 1950s anti-feminist determinism, but I just want to say that I want this because I’m 6′2″ and I really like to cook.
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I know the headline calls it out as 1950s anti-feminist determinism, but I just want to say that I want this because I’m 6′2″ and I really like to cook.
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(Thanks to Jezebel for the image of the O cover, and for drawing my attention to this month’s issue in general.)
So, on to why I let my O subscription run out.
For me the final straw came a few months ago with a cover line that said, “What’s your love type? Don’t say another word to him until you take this quiz!” The first half of that is fine. The second is not. It’s not only bossy and obnoxious, but tremendously condescending — I can’t even be trusted to have a conversation with my own husband/significant other without O there to prevent me from Doing it Wrong and Ruining Everything? I don’t want to read a magazine that thinks I’m that big of an idiot, thanks.
What that cover line did for me was solidify and confirm something I had suspected for a long time: that the whole Oprah Brand’s most prominent M.O. is to knock you down, then build you back up.
But who said I wanted — or needed — to be knocked down?
Three of O’s cover lines this month are that brand of obnoxious, which makes me wonder if there’s a new tactic afoot in their editorial board meetings: “No, trust the reader less! Instill more fear!”
The most direct comparison is “O’s New Sex Column: Don’t go to bed without it!” Wow — not only do you have no idea how to talk to your mate; you can’t make love to him, either. That thing he says he likes? Maybe he doesn’t really! And now that we’ve instilled that seed of doubt, only we can remove it. So just stop all those things you’ve been doing with confidence and flair — whatever they are, we’re pretty sure you’re doing them wrong.
Next we have another follower of the “Perfectly fine statement/ Assertion of your wrongness” format. “What Your Hair Says About You: And how to change the message.” The first part of that interests me in a casual, slightly prurient, pick-it-up-in-the-checkout-line kind of way. But the assumption that I’ll need to change whatever “message” my hair is “sending” instantly turns me off. Jeeze — can’t you just tell me whatever my stupid hair-message is and then leave it up to me if it’s wrong or not?
The third one is the worst, though. “Could a Man Drive You Crazy? What really made Astronaut Lisa Nowak snap.” Here the Oprah brand takes the celebrated “This awful thing could so happen to you!” concept and stretches it until it snaps. Could a man drive me crazy? Hmm, maybe if I was already crazy. Otherwise, I don’t think I have too much to worry about. Did O have a cover that read, “Will YOU drown your kids?” after Andrea Yates? (The more I look at that, the more possible it sounds.) If you’re going to assert that your readers are just one bad day away from truly whacked-out, criminal behavior, you’d better have some damn compelling evidence. Otherwise, you’re just insulting them.
Is it too much to ask for a women’s magazine that doesn’t think I need to be scraped up off the floor? One that simply says, “You’re already pretty great, but here are some interesting things you might want to know about.” (Actually, BUST is a lot like that, which is why it’s the one magazine I still subscribe to.) There are, in fact, some valuable articles within the pages of O, but I’ll never get past the cover if it keeps delivering put-downs like these.
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Whether you’re making a gradual change, or just trying to make something expensive last a bit longer, sometimes mixing two products together is the way to go. The idea should be nothing new to anyone who’s tried to learn a new habit (a couch-to-5k program will suggest you mix running with walking, for example), but I thought I’d list some of the ways I save money, and occasionally calories, by mixing the luxurious with the super-cheap, or the luxuriously caloric with the virtuous:
Butter/SmartBalance
OK, so SmartBalance doesn’t taste quite the same as butter, but you can fool yourself if you train your tastebuds gradually. I’m up to about a 1:2 ratio, butter to fake butter, on things like English muffins and popcorn, and even in some baked goods.
Soda/diet soda
Sure, I’m a fan of diet now, but it was a long, hard road to get there. I trained myself slowly, first with C2, then when that disappeared off the shelves (somewhere in there is a commentary about the unpopularity of moderation in this country), by mixing diet and non-diet whenever I bought fountain soda. Now, of course, they say that diet soda trains you to crave sweets all the more, so I’m currently trying to wean myself off that and onto flavored seltzer. I don’t mix that with diet Coke, though.
$8 bottle of salon conditioner/79-cent bottle of White Rain
Believe me, I wish I could go with plain old cheap conditioner, but I have about 50 pounds of thick, wavy-curly hair that’s prone to tangling. But by mixing the thick, expensive stuff with the cheap, I make the fancy stuff last a lot longer, and honestly, the mixture works just as well.
$20+ bottle of Clinique toner/$2 bottle of witch hazel
I have a giant bottle of ultra-expensive Clinique toner (purchased during fatter, foolisher times) that is probably going to last me until 2020 thanks to this trick. I mix the two in a travel bottle, and the coolest thing about this is I can make adjustments whenever I need to — a bit more of the alcohol-heavy Clinique in the summertime, a bit less during the dry winter.
Have any tricks of your own? Leave them in the comments!
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… But here at work I am helping wrap up a giant project, so I haven’t been able to post any of the entries that have been piling up in my brain. In the meantime, you can entertain yourself here by watching Faith Hill go from natural beauty to superskinny freakazoid on the cover of Redbook. I’ll have more to say about this phenomenon in the future, if my contribution to the online furor over this isn’t horribly outdated by the time my head is above water.
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So I finally told my good friend Jennifer about this blog, and she has blessed me with many, many retroactive comments (you are awesome, by the way!). One of them, in my post about planning for those lazy evenings, bears highlighting:
[Qdoba] gave me an idea for a really quick, really cheap, healthy dinner – canned black beans + salsa + cheese + flour tortilla, whatever fresh vegetables are around… Why are we paying six dollars for a burrito?
An excellent recipe… and an excellent point!
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This story from last week’s St. Louis Today, sent by my friend Mollie, is full of great tips on how to eat healthy on a budget. Though it’s not for meat-lovers (“healthy diets should be built around vegetables, grains and fruits, not meat and
prepared foods”), it has some good guidelines — many of which I already follow — for food that’s cheap, healthy and convenient. And, as a side effect, low on chemicals and preservatives.
A big emphasis is not wasting money via produce spoilage, which is a lesson I need to learn a bit better. (I don’t always have a tip like “roast those old grape tomatoes” at the tip of my brain.)
Rearrange your food storage to prevent spoilage and food waste. For example, take your vegetables out of the crisper in the refrigerator and put them where you can see them. Vegetables and fruits often spoil in the crisper because you forget they’re there. Put snacks with life spans of months and years in the crisper.
I’ve been putting vegetables in the crisper for years out of habit, but yeah, wake up, it’s where produce goes to die! The author also makes a good point about frozen vegetables — just as healthy, plus no waste due to spoilage — though it seems a shame to eat them now, during farmer’s market season. So I think I’m going to be more serious about a system of organization Mr. L has always been saying we should use: the faster something will go bad, the more visible it needs to be.
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Do you know how to sauté garlic? If you do, there’s no reason for you to buy pasta sauce in a jar (or — shudder — a can) ever again.
Cooking the garlic is definitely the most complicated part of making your own tomato sauce. The second most difficult is probably opening the can of tomatoes.
And yes, use canned, not fresh — unless it’s the peak of August and you’ve got a bumper crop of ripe Romas, the tomatoes you get in a can at the grocery store are far more flavorful than anything you’ll find in the produce department most times of the year.
Your own pasta sauce will cost you about a third as much as prepared sauces, and will give you all the flavor and convenience — without the added cost, preservatives and (often) high-fructose corn syrup.
Here’s what you’ll need:
1 15-oz. can of plain diced tomatoes
It’s best to get just plain tomatoes. The kind with added spices are all right, but watch the ingredients list; some of them include unwelcome chemicals and additives like, again, high-fructose corn syrup. (Seriously. It’s everywhere.) The whole idea here is to eat less of that stuff, not more.
1 tbs. tomato paste
I know, it comes in cans that, even when small, contain way more than you’ll ever use at once, and it doesn’t keep well. Here’s what to do about that: Freeze tablespoonfulls of tomato paste on a cookie sheet (or between sheets of Press ‘n’ Seal, if you want to get fancy) and stash these nuggets in your freezer, ready to pop into any sauce or stew that needs a little oomph. You don’t even need to defrost it first.
Garlic — 1 clove however much your heart desires
It’s not a must, but I really suggest investing in a garlic press. It gives you more garlic flavor for much less work. No-brainer.
Olive oil
No need to use extra-virgin here, since it’s being cooked.
1 tsp. dried basil, 2 tsp. dried oregano
Obviously fresh herbs are great, but I really think dried herbs work fine here, especially if they’re recently bought and haven’t been sitting in your cabinet since 2003.
Here’s what you do:
Heat a few tablespoons of olive oil in saucepan over medium heat. Wait until the oil shimmers — the surface will look wavy (looking at a reflection of a light in the oil’s surface is a good way to tell).
Crush in your cloves(s) of garlic. If you’re using dried herbs, go ahead and add them now. Swoon at the scent filling your kitchen.
Open your can of tomatoes and drain off a little of the can’s liquid; you don’t want the sauce to be too watery. Just when the garlic starts to get golden — you don’t want to let that go too far — add the tomatoes.
Combine everything and cook the tomatoes for a minute or two, then add your fresh or frozen lump of tomato paste. Stir it in, and any fresh herbs if you have them, and let it simmer for a few minutes. Add some salt or pepper to taste.
There. You’re done.
(This is assuming you like chunky tomato sauce, which I do. If you don’t, an immersion blender will take you to any texture you please.)
This, of course, is just the basics. The great thing about this sauce is it can go anywhere your sense of creativity takes it. Try adding:
And it goes great with any pasta. One of my favorites: Cook up some gnocchi, then add them into the still-simmering sauce. The dumplings soak up all the flavors, and thicken the sauce, to boot. Enjoy!
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Erin has another uber-useful post, this one about how to build a wardrobe full of high-quality clothes you will actually wear without breaking the bank.
To dress attractively, in a way that makes you happy, does not take a lot of money. I pretty much *never* spend more than $100 on any one thing, and that includes coats and shoes. I usually spend less than $50.
The first, and hardest part, is to find out HOW you want to dress. What makes you feel capable, confident, attractive? What makes you happy?
Followed by many, many practical tips. Print it out, laminate it, and take it with you everywhere you go.
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